Four invitations on the fridge, a summer of Saturdays booked, and, if you are anything like the rest of us, one honest question: what on earth do I wear to all of them? Here is how to dress for every wedding this season, from a quiet register office to a black-tie marquee, without spending a fortune or accidentally upstaging the bride.
The invitations have landed, the diary is full, and somewhere between June and September you have four weddings and nothing to wear. Here is how to dress for every one of them; from a Tuesday register office to a black-tie marquee, without upstaging the bride or spending a fortune.
Wedding season has a way of arriving all at once. August is the busiest month for ceremonies in the UK, with June and July close behind, so many of us are dressing for back-to-back celebrations on a single wardrobe and a real budget. The good news is that this season is unusually kind to a guest: fluid fabrics, soft tailoring and pastels are everywhere, and almost none of it asks you to be uncomfortable. But before you buy or borrow a thing, do one small thing first; read the invitation properly.
Early this year, one of my cousins got married in Portugal. I ordered more than 12 outfits online and I made a several visits to the malls before I could get a suitable outfit to wear for the occasion. It was a dilema, to say the least. Imagiine if I had to do this for four (4) weddings in a row.
i. Read the dress code first
The most useful words on any invitation are the ones most of us skim straight past: the dress code. "Lounge suit" is not black tie. "Cocktail" is not "wear whatever you like." Decode that single line and you have made half the decision already. What follows is arranged the way real invitations tend to escalate, from the quietest ceremony to the grandest evening.
Get the code right and the outfit very nearly chooses itself.
ii. The register office: polished, not fussy
For a weekday ceremony or an intimate town-hall wedding, think smart rather than formal. This is soft tailoring's moment: wide-leg trousers in ivory, stone or taupe with a silk or satin blouse, and a low kitten heel. It reads expensive, it stays cool, and if you prefer a little more coverage, it is one of the most elegant modest looks going this year. A single soft neutral, top to toe, does the same job with even less effort.
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Yellow Linen-Blend Wide Leg Tailored Trousers — Nobody's Child, £29.70
Pure Silk Collared Shirt — M&S, £90.00
iii. The garden or marquee: this season's playground
Outdoor summer weddings are where the trends actually live. Reach for a macro floral, the big, zoomed-in prints that have replaced the ditsy ones; or a polka-dot midi in a fabric that moves. Butter yellow is still the colour of the season, with baby blue and soft pink close behind. Choose a block heel or a smart flat, because grass and stilettos have never once been friends.
For an older and traditional person, M&S is my pick. But if you are young and vibrant and you want that to reflect your look, Mango, Nobody's Child and ASOS will be the ideal place to pick up your wedding guest's outfit for this wedding season
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Cotton volume-waist midi, buttermilk yellow — & Other Stories, £49.99
Jones Bootmaker Suede Kitten Heel Pointed Court Shoes — M&S, £99.00
iv. The church or cathedral: considered and covered
A traditional ceremony rewards a little more formality and a little more coverage. A wrap midi or maxi, an off-shoulder neckline softened with a fine knit, or pleated separates all strike the right note. Keep a light jacket or shawl to hand, English churches stay cool even in a heatwave, which is a mercy for the outfit and for you.
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Draped / wrap satin midi — Mango · asymmetric styles, £69.99
Plain Lightweight Scarf — M&S, £6.30
v. Cocktail, the sweet spot
Cocktail is the most common code and the most forgiving. A knee-to-midi dress in a jewel tone or a painterly print, one considered accessory, and a heel you can genuinely stand in for six hours. For the season's playful edge, a little fringe or a ruffle carries you neatly from the ceremony to the dance floor.
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Draped ruched gown —Self-Portrait £410.00
Callie Small brocade tote bag — Jimmy Choo, £925.00
vi. Black tie, the full stop
For a black-tie or formal evening wedding, go long: a floor-length gown, a well-cut jumpsuit, or a satin slip under good jewellery. This is the one occasion to let the outfit be the loudest thing you say — short of the bride. Always short of the bride.
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Embellished linen dress — Johanna Ortiz, £2,105
Sac A Main Small studded clutch — Rabanne, £640.00
vii. The rules that never change
Whatever the code, a few things hold every single time. Never wear white, off-white, or anything that could photograph as ivory; that column belongs to one person. Try not to turn up in the bridesmaids' colour. Dress for the venue and the weather as much as the dress code: a marquee in a heatwave and a stone church in April are simply different assignments. And choose shoes you can dance in, because you will.
One more thing worth knowing this season: renting is no longer a compromise. With back-to-back weddings and a no-repeat culture online, hiring a designer piece for a single day is often the smartest, and cheapest way to look like you spent a fortune. The luxury look for less, quite literally.
If you have a wedding to attend this season, are you aware of the dress code? If yes, which of the looks are you most likely to emulate? And are you buying or renting? Leave your comments below. Perhaps you have advice for others to follow? Let us know in the comment too
Get the code right, dress for the day you are actually attending, and leave the white to the bride. That is the whole of it.
